Well, Now You’ve Gotten the Women Angry

It is not that hard to do the right thing.  Well, you might lose everything, but after the shock has worn off, you haven’t died. On the other hand, if you choose the wrong thing someone might die.  Children might die.

We are so bombarded by the constant stream of disturbing news that we pretty quickly move on from one frustrating reality to the next jaw-dropping event.  But even with Justice Kennedy’s announced resignation, one newsworthy item is staying in the headlines.  It is the more than 2,000 children who remain separated from their parents.

This past weekend there were 628 protests in 50 states against the current administration’s stance on immigration issues, particularly as it relates to those 2,000 children.  Many Americans are outraged, and with good reason.  These children will suffer lifelong mental health issues because of the unconscionable action taken by this administration.  But I have been almost as appalled by the lack of action taken by the evangelical church as I have been by the edicts coming out of Washington.

When it comes to the border crisis, megachurch pastors have responded like political pros, using flowery words that signify nothing. I read the response of one megachurch pastor that was silky smooth and utterly toothless.  Basically it said, “Whatever conclusion you reach, it is your conclusion, and as long as you’ve thought it through, your conclusion is good.”  Except that separating mothers from their children is not good.  It is never good.  It never has been good.  It never will be good.

But these guys, and they are all guys, are so afraid of alienating someone, they take no stand, which of course is a stand. To make a rather drastic but not altogether inappropriate analogy, the Holocaust would never have happened without the stony silence of the German church.

Of course, America’s evangelical churches do take a stand.  They take a stand on the pet subjects of their male leadership.  They take a stand against perfectly normal and healthy LGBTQ people, because their tribe has deemed that population to be a threat.  They take a stand against abortion, while allowing irreparable damage to be done to children who are already breathing.

I believe the lack of response to the border crisis is one more giant misstep sealing the fate of the current leaders of the American evangelical church.  Their empty rhetoric in these critically important hours reveals the mold eating away beneath their polished facade.  The evangelical church may not recover, and I am beginning to believe that is not a bad thing.  Last week a friend tweeted, “Okay, you got your Muslim ban.  When do we get our evangelical ban?”  This is how a large number of Americans feel about evangelicalism.

What goes around comes around.    Do evangelicals not know this?  Every church that gains political power eventually comes undone at the seams.  A David comes along with a sling and a stone and brings down the giant with one well-placed throw.

I love all the mothers who are coming together to address this crisis, because if we’re honest, it’s the mothers who get it.  Children are our most precious resource.  Those who mess with their wellbeing will pray a price.

It is courageous and brave women who are bringing power to the #ChurchToo movement.  They came together and spoke their stories, knowing they would be vilified by many of their former friends.  But nevertheless they persisted.

Some of the best-known female evangelical leaders have gotten behind the movement to return children to their parents.  All of these women are finding the courage to do what the male evangelical power brokers are unwilling to do.  They are calling evangelicalism on its misogyny, its racism, its homophobia, its anti-immigrant stance and its sexual abuse.  While the men stand with their deer in the headlights look, the women are boldly saying, “We will be silent no more.”

I think we might have found our David.

14 thoughts on “Well, Now You’ve Gotten the Women Angry

  1. So pinpoint accurate. When I was part of a mega church for years, I wondered why is there no one talking about really big things? With great power comes great responsibility and it felt irresponsible. I love reading your writings.


  2. Wow! Thank you for this thoughtful and very accurate description of the immigration crises for the children. I am heartbroken every day and horrified by the politics relative to this situation and institutional lack of support – and backbone. Peace & blessings – Veronika


  3. Thank you Paula for your boldness!!! You are amazing with your succinct accuracy. It has always been the women who have been our salvation. I look back at my years of ministry and if it were not for the women in the church, the doors would have closed.


  4. Paula, I just had the enormous good fortune of stumbling across your Tedtalk. You inspire me so much. In so many ways. Thank you. I am one of those women who will be silent no more. About so many things. You make me feel sooooo not alone. xo


  5. Hi Paula,
    I just want to tell you what a strong and beautiful spirit you are. I was just introduced to you through your ted talk, which made me cry it was such a profound feeling of validation for the challenges of being a woman, as well as inspiration and recognition of the profound observations your share. Your strength and spiritual quest for love and authenticity are inspiring. Thank you, and thank you for this piece about the crisis of family separation. I marvel at the complacency and hypocrisy of so-called Christians all the time. Your voice is powerful and stands out. Keep speaking for justice and authenticity. ❤️


  6. Thank you cogent and clearheaded response. I only wish I could share it on my Facebook site. But I will get it shared rest assured. I come at things much more differently, I am an old woman who has lived a lifeof male entitlement. Even my kids laughed when I told them it was a miracle their father could get around my strap on! But as you point out pastor the sensibilities of women might make them the only ones up to the task of caring for children. Thank you again


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